Getting 'Holla'd' At

Even though it's Friday, lets rewind a tiny bit to last weekend. It has been a very busy month, mostly on the weekends, with events, and travel and it's been great!

This past weekend the husband and I took a road trip to Sacramento for a friends wedding. We stayed at the Sheraton Grand Hotel in Downtown, right off J St.

Well on Sat Night we walked over 2 blocks to PF Changs for dinner, "Soy sauce on the Jeans" story aside......as we walked back from the restaurant some guys, who I assume go to Sac State, yelled out their car window, "Hey Girl!" I found this quite odd, seeing as how I'm mostly used to that sort of thing when I'm with my girlfriends heading to the clubs, but no, this instance I was on the arm of my husband, walking side by side. I turned to him and gave a puzzled look as if, "Did they just holla at me?" I think we pretty much accepted that I'm still hot, even if it is 9pm and they were driving by at 35-40 mph!

So to those boys in Sac, Thanks. You made my night!

Just for Today

JUST FOR TODAY: I will live through this day only. I will not brood about yesterday or obsess about tomorrow. I will not set far-reaching goals or try to overcome all of my problems at once.
I know that I can do something for 24 hours that would overwhelm me if I had to keep it up for a lifetime.

JUST FOR TODAY: I will be happy. I will not dwell on thoughts that depress me. If my mind fills with clouds, I will chase them away and fill it with sunshine.

JUST FOR TODAY: I will accept what is. I will face reality. I will correct those things I can correct and accept those I cannot.

JUST FOR TODAY: I will improve my mind. I will read something that requires effort, thought and concentration. I will not be a mental loafer.

JUST FOR TODAY: I will make a conscious effort to be agreeable. I will be kind and courteous to those who cross my path, and I'll not speak ill of others. I will improve my appearance, speak softly, and not interrupt when someone else is talking.

Just for today, I will refrain from improving anybody but myself.

JUST FOR TODAY: I will do something positive to improve my health. If I'm a smoker, I'll quit. If I am overweight, I will eat healthfully -- if only just for today. And not only that, I will get off the couch and take a brisk walk, even if it's only around the block.

JUST FOR TODAY: I will gather the courage to do what is right and take responsibility for my own actions.

Dating 101: Are Bad Dating Habits Keeping You Single?

Saw this on Yahoo and thought they'd be good to share. I know I've had to do some of these myself!  Mostly the letting go of the past part.

Five tips to free yourself from common dating traps

By Lisa Steadman, The Relationship JournalistSpecial to Yahoo! PersonalsUpdated: Aug 28, 2008

In the search for love, it's all too easy to get sidetracked by bad dates, broken hearts, and bad love habits. And while bad dates and broken hearts are part of the dating journey toward happily-ever-after, bad love habits can and should be avoided at all costs.

So what's a bad love habit? Any dysfunctional, destructive, difficult belief or habit you have towards love and relationships that's keeping you from finding, attracting, and/or maintaining a healthy relationship. The following are some common bad dating beliefs:

• You choose potential partners who are incapable of meeting your emotional needs.
• You think love has to be difficult, painful, and/or hard.
• You think your potential partner is going to fix whatever you don't like about yourself or your life.
   You think your potential partner is going to fix whatever you don't like about yourself or your life.
• You believe time is running out on your search for love and/or your chance to have children.

If any of the above sound familiar, don't worry. You're not a lost cause. In fact, with a little time and effort, you can turn things around! What follows are five simple and effective tips and techniques geared toward helping you break free of limiting relationship beliefs and bad dating habits. Practiced over time, you can and will kick any bad dating habit -- for good!

1. Identify the dating traps you're stuck in

Think you've got to miraculously solve all your problems before you'll be deserving of love? Convinced there are no good "ones" left? Or do you believe that your perfect partner will one day swoop in and magically save you from your life? If any or all of the above sound familiar, chances are good that you suffer from some common dating traps. In order to become a successful single, you first need to free yourself from these traps. Acknowledging the traps you're stuck in is the first step. Next, you've got to break free of these traps, as well as any other limiting or destructive beliefs that are keeping you stuck. To find out how, keep reading.

2. Assess your excess baggage

Next, it's important to get honest with yourself about what you might be lugging around with you on dates (or in life in general). What are you holding onto that no longer serves you? Rejection, disappointment, betrayal? This is from your past, not your present or future. If you've got negative or destructive beliefs or fears weighing you down, you owe it to yourself to dump that excess baggage!

3. Dump your excess baggage

In order to have a happily ever after future, you have to first believe you deserve finding a mate. Gather those painful memories, that chip on your shoulder, any residual anger from past relationship experiences, and tell them they've got to go. Thank them for the lessons you've learned and tell them that it's now time for you to stand on your own two feet. In your mind's eye, give them the heave-ho! Next, start visualizing the kind of life you want to have, complete with your dream job, perfect partner, ideal home, etc. By getting clear about what you want, you give yourself permission to attract it.

4. Stop putting off your life and/or personal happiness

So many of us put off personal happiness waiting for some external result like "I'll be happy when I lose weight, when I pay off my debts, when I get a better job." The truth is, you deserve to enjoy your fabulously imperfect life right this very minute! 

When you stop putting off happiness, you start attracting happy people, healthy relationships, exciting and new opportunities.

When you stop putting off happiness, you start attracting happy people, healthy relationships, exciting and new opportunities. Instead of postponing joy until something external happens, today's the day to start celebrating the joy in your everyday life.

5. Embrace a new dating vocabulary

Now that you're baggage light and dating-trap free, it's time to introduce a new vocabulary to your dating belief system. Every morning and night for 30 days, practice the following exercise: Say to yourself "Love/dating/my ideal relationship is..." and then fill in the blank with the appropriate words (words like healthy, whole, loving, fun, etc.). By creating a new vocabulary for yourself, you may be surprised at how your outlook on dating and relationships changes, and as a result, you'll start attracting happier and healthier potential partners. Love that!

So there you have it -- five simple dating tips and techniques to help you break free of limiting relationship beliefs and bad love habits. May you learn them, love them, live them. In doing so, you just may fall in love with your life all over again, not to mention exponentially increase your chances of future relationship success.

Good luck and happy dating!

When Looking For A Guy...

Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will stay awake just to watch you sleep.

Wait for the boy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in your sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends, who thinks you're just as pretty without makeup on.

Wait for the one who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares about you and how lucky he is to have you.

Wait for the one who turns to his friends and says, "...that's her."

A year ago

He he,

A year ago today I was on my way to Liz's house for one of the greatest days ever!!! Her wedding. We did make up and hair at her house while her mom provided yummys and finished one of the cakes. Then it was off to the church that we grew up in. The excitment was amazing. pre-wedding pictures were taken as we started to dress and it went by so fast from there. I am a big sap and I was doing really good until Paul started crying. Simple yet beautiful and suprisingly not stressful.

Liz can I tell you how in aw I am of you. You married your best friend and had a blast doing it. You didnt settle when there were times you could have and you found your perfect fit.

So, Liz...Happy Anniversary, with many more to come.

Things Up and Coming

For those who thought, by the title, that this might be sexually related....I'm sorry, but not as of yet. Perhaps in the future, when we get a bit more of a liberal and/ or open audience, but for now we'll keep it PG.

So things going on in the world of Paul and Liz, next week we're celebrating our very first wedding anniversary! We're going out to place I've wanted to try for ages, and heard good things about, Ruth's Chris Steakhouse! Apparently they have a summer special that for $89 = dinner for two (3 course meal). Not bad huh!? We'll clean our selves up after work, perhaps Paul will wear pants! (not that he doesn't, he just wears shorts everyday to work, ....lucky!)

We're not getting each other any gifts, not exactly. We agreed to go to an Angel's/ A's game as our present to each other. Plus, since the first anniversary gift is Paper, we just gave each other a ticket, a silly exchange, but it IS paper, so it counted, right? (ps. my A's won!)

We also have a trip to San Diego Zoo planned and another trip to Sacramento for a wedding planned this month, so we'll be busy bees, driving all over California, perhaps pictures will be posted!

I can't wait to share traveling time with Paul, he's great!