The simple things that make you fall in love

Sunday morning he cooked me breakfast. My favorite fruit, toast with jelly and turkey bacon just the way I like it. We went to go visit friend but he stopped so I could get my coffee fix. Walking anywhere he holds may hand. On the way home he turns my seat warmer on.

I could go on and on about the things that he does daily that I hold close to my heart. The Tiffany's bracelet means a lot to me, I wear it everyday but its not what makes me love him. Its a reminder of his love for me. Some people base their love on material things. Some women go for men who have money, and will only talk to men who have money. Thats not what holds a relationship together. It's the little things that he does for you or you do for him that keeps a relationship strong. It means more to him that you listened on a bad day or made him soup when he was sick then the watch you bought him. He's going to talk about how you make his favorite meal when he has a bad day before he talks about the expensive tv you got. When he is falling asleep he thinks about the way you look at him when hes holding you and the way you tell him you love him.

His small actions are his way of expressing his love. Pay more attention to those small things and thank him for them, when you notice and thank him, it makes him feel good. I am talking about simple...getting you a napkin, taking your plate when your done eatting, opening a door...all of these things are his little way of telling you how much he cares.

Fall & Winter

I love the fall and winter months. Its a time when people tend to come together more and there is just a coziness in the air. It means seeing friends who come home for the holidays and pumpkin pie. When I get married I want it to be in the fall. But I am getting off topic. Yes the colder months are harder for those who have less then the average person but as you are giving canned goods to your local shelter or droping money in the red collection containers outside Safeway that those who have less need help all year around. If you can, once a month drop something off to a shelter, even if its something small it really means alot! If you go to church feed the homeless once a month, it means alot. Donate to the redcross or another local organization, it means alot...there maybe (lets pray that there is not) a day when you are going to need help. It will also make you feel good to know that you made someones day alittle brighter and alittle happier!

Once again, I knew I married the right guy for me!

I love it when Paul and I are looking at houses/condos and he gets sooo excited about a place, it makes me get more excited!
He's almost like a little kid in a fort.

5 Reasons Why Single Men Fear Commitment

Reason #1: Saying "yes" to you means saying "no" to the rest of the world
Let's say he asks you to marry him on a Saturday. Then on Monday he's walking to work and a beautiful woman approaches. As a swinging single, he had the freedom to drop a cute one-liner. Now this knockout is off limits. The bottom line here is your man wonders if you truly are the best person he'll ever meet or just the best person to date. This quandary can stop a waffling guy in his tracks.
The Solution: Face this issue head-on and admit to your man that the world of women does not magically become ugly the moment he puts a ring on your finger. It's okay to find other women attractive, just like you could take note of a cute guy at the gym. The point is you're mutually agreeing to not act on these impulses.

Reason #2: Women in magazines and on TV look so perfect
Thanks to airbrushing and perfect lighting, women in magazines, movies and TV portray an unattainable look. Your man might mistakenly believe these Hollywood starlets wake up in the morning actually looking like this. He then takes one look at you in sweatpants and suddenly develops a new crush on the Revlon model in Cosmo.
The Solution: All you need to do is find a magazine or website that exposes celebrities without their makeup. These candid photos, complete with skin blemishes, non-designer clothes and unkempt hair, will remind your man that celebrities are regular people too. Then book a romantic evening together where you both dress up elegantly.One look at you in your finest duds and your man will soon realize you too can look like a Hollywood starlet.

Reason #3: I'm not ready to give up guys' night out (i.e., my fraternity days)
From college to the present, your guy has locked in Friday night with the guys. Sports and drinking dominate the night as does hitting on women. Suddenly Fridays transform into dinners with couples, movie rentals and family gatherings. Your man just might miss his high-flying single days and feel jealous of his unattached buddies.
The Solution: Who says marriage means the end of male friendships? Let your man know he can still get together with the guys -- maybe not every Friday night, but certainly one or two times a month. You can do the same with the girls. Remove the need to hit on members of the opposite sex and you're good to go. Besides, these same-gender relationships are healthy.

Reason #4: Relationships shouldn't require so much work
"All we do is talk." We all know some guys have a penchant for avoiding deep conversation. Many guys have friends who claim they never fight with their spouses, or maybe he had parents who shielded him from marital tension. A few too many challenging conversations and your man may wonder if all the stress is a sign of a bad relationship.
The Solution: Quality communication is all about picking the right moment. A long, difficult day at work is not the best precursor to a difficult conversation. Relaxing on the couch, in a low- stress moment, is a much better option. You can also seek out another couple who is willing to be honest about relationship tension that all couples face. Seeing this other couple deal with the same issues might help him realize you're not alone in facing relationship hurdles.

Reason #5: I'm not sure if the things that bother me about you are deal-breakers
Your man loves 38 things about you, but three things about you really annoy him. He can't decide if the 38 lovable qualities outweigh the three annoyances, or if ultimately those three things will drive him batty.
The Solution: You've got to remind your man that sooner or later everyone has the potential to be annoying. Family, roommates, colleagues and spouses all have qualities that can grate on you from time to time. And here's a news flash: he has some annoying qualities too. Marriage is all about accepting a few flaws for the greater good of an otherwise healthy relationship.

I love my Boyfriend

I do, I do, I do. Other than his love I wanted nothing more from him for my birthday but he surprised me with a bracelet from Tiffanys. We went to dinner with my parents last night and I opened gifts before dinner. The card from my grandparents, the gift from my parents and then his. Even before I saw the bracelet his card that he wrote made me tear up. He doesnt like jewlery and doesnt like giving it either, so for him to get me a bracelet and one from tiffanys means more to me and him then I can put into words. I slept with it on and only took it off this morning to shower.

Great Moment

Not only is it my birthday but I get to share it with the first black President of the US!!!

Today is one of the greatest moments in history, if you were for or against Obama it doesn't matter, just realize you got to see this very awesome day. You are apart of seeing something people said may never happen. Not only is it celebrated in America, but the World. Something so great that the WORLD came together for one night and waited, cheered and celebrated. If the World comes together for one man imagine how great this man can be! When the world stops for a nation that some see as overbearing and controlling, to witness history in the making and they are celebrating Obamas win its a sign that things can be fixed, that there is a willingness for change, and change there will be! This win was not just for us but for them, a world that is torn apart with war and indifference has a chance to change and come together.

No on 8 extended

I have to expand on what was written below. I never meant to offend anyone and I want to make sure that there is some clarity.

Do I understand where some people who are voting YES on 8 are coming from? Yes I do, and its part of the reason I am voting no.

We have so many different cultures, religions and beliefs in our country that I think to an extent we need to step outside of a comfort zone and just listen to how this prop 8 is making gay people feel. No ones religion or beliefs are better than anyone else's, and as much as I believe what I am taught in Church, I also know that I have to be mindful of others because they were not raised in the same church or with the same values.

Never have I said kids only in gay homes are raised better. I think my parents did a fantastic job, along with my friends parents and friends who are parents. I just think that SOME people that are raised in homes where their parents had to deal with discrimination, sexual or racial, have a better understanding of all peoples and teach equality more often.

There have been gays in the world hundreds of years before us. It was common for men of higher classes in the Greek and Roman times to "interact" with one another. So for ages past and ages to come there will always be gay and straight, and society does not have to agree with it, just like with interracial relationships or other religions not their own, but being accepting of it. Marriage is not taught in schools now, nor does is have to if 8 is shot down. Children are going to learn about it anyways, through TV shows and the news, from their friends who have gay parents, when they go to high school and they or their friends come out, they are going to learn about it, and they should. Just like children learning about other races or religions.

Your fears should not restrict the dreams of others, telling gays that they can marry is not going to open the gates of hell and demoralize our country, politics and human nature have done that already. I think that people are smart enough to know the differences between right and wrong. Just because you don't think its right (anyone who reads this) doesn't mean its wrong.