MERRY CHRISTMAS and HAPPY HOLIDAYS

This Christmas

Yes there is a song called "This Christmas" and it describes partially how I feel about this Christmas. This is the first Christmas in a while that I am enjoying. Christmas is about family and spending time with people you love, and I feel like I have that this year! My amazing amazing boyfriend (who isn't so big on Christmas) is letting me have my fun in decorating the house and getting a tree!!! The love that I get from him makes everything just feel right, along with the freezing temperatures that are going on.

Remember that Christmas isn't about the presents, quantity or cost. There is a meaning that people forget about. Instead of thinking about getting the biggest or the best, think about getting what means the most. Something that comes from the heart.

I really couldn't be happier. MERRY CHRISTMAS

The simple things that make you fall in love

Sunday morning he cooked me breakfast. My favorite fruit, toast with jelly and turkey bacon just the way I like it. We went to go visit friend but he stopped so I could get my coffee fix. Walking anywhere he holds may hand. On the way home he turns my seat warmer on.

I could go on and on about the things that he does daily that I hold close to my heart. The Tiffany's bracelet means a lot to me, I wear it everyday but its not what makes me love him. Its a reminder of his love for me. Some people base their love on material things. Some women go for men who have money, and will only talk to men who have money. Thats not what holds a relationship together. It's the little things that he does for you or you do for him that keeps a relationship strong. It means more to him that you listened on a bad day or made him soup when he was sick then the watch you bought him. He's going to talk about how you make his favorite meal when he has a bad day before he talks about the expensive tv you got. When he is falling asleep he thinks about the way you look at him when hes holding you and the way you tell him you love him.

His small actions are his way of expressing his love. Pay more attention to those small things and thank him for them, when you notice and thank him, it makes him feel good. I am talking about simple...getting you a napkin, taking your plate when your done eatting, opening a door...all of these things are his little way of telling you how much he cares.

Fall & Winter

I love the fall and winter months. Its a time when people tend to come together more and there is just a coziness in the air. It means seeing friends who come home for the holidays and pumpkin pie. When I get married I want it to be in the fall. But I am getting off topic. Yes the colder months are harder for those who have less then the average person but as you are giving canned goods to your local shelter or droping money in the red collection containers outside Safeway that those who have less need help all year around. If you can, once a month drop something off to a shelter, even if its something small it really means alot! If you go to church feed the homeless once a month, it means alot. Donate to the redcross or another local organization, it means alot...there maybe (lets pray that there is not) a day when you are going to need help. It will also make you feel good to know that you made someones day alittle brighter and alittle happier!

Once again, I knew I married the right guy for me!

I love it when Paul and I are looking at houses/condos and he gets sooo excited about a place, it makes me get more excited!
He's almost like a little kid in a fort.

5 Reasons Why Single Men Fear Commitment

Reason #1: Saying "yes" to you means saying "no" to the rest of the world
Let's say he asks you to marry him on a Saturday. Then on Monday he's walking to work and a beautiful woman approaches. As a swinging single, he had the freedom to drop a cute one-liner. Now this knockout is off limits. The bottom line here is your man wonders if you truly are the best person he'll ever meet or just the best person to date. This quandary can stop a waffling guy in his tracks.
The Solution: Face this issue head-on and admit to your man that the world of women does not magically become ugly the moment he puts a ring on your finger. It's okay to find other women attractive, just like you could take note of a cute guy at the gym. The point is you're mutually agreeing to not act on these impulses.

Reason #2: Women in magazines and on TV look so perfect
Thanks to airbrushing and perfect lighting, women in magazines, movies and TV portray an unattainable look. Your man might mistakenly believe these Hollywood starlets wake up in the morning actually looking like this. He then takes one look at you in sweatpants and suddenly develops a new crush on the Revlon model in Cosmo.
The Solution: All you need to do is find a magazine or website that exposes celebrities without their makeup. These candid photos, complete with skin blemishes, non-designer clothes and unkempt hair, will remind your man that celebrities are regular people too. Then book a romantic evening together where you both dress up elegantly.One look at you in your finest duds and your man will soon realize you too can look like a Hollywood starlet.

Reason #3: I'm not ready to give up guys' night out (i.e., my fraternity days)
From college to the present, your guy has locked in Friday night with the guys. Sports and drinking dominate the night as does hitting on women. Suddenly Fridays transform into dinners with couples, movie rentals and family gatherings. Your man just might miss his high-flying single days and feel jealous of his unattached buddies.
The Solution: Who says marriage means the end of male friendships? Let your man know he can still get together with the guys -- maybe not every Friday night, but certainly one or two times a month. You can do the same with the girls. Remove the need to hit on members of the opposite sex and you're good to go. Besides, these same-gender relationships are healthy.

Reason #4: Relationships shouldn't require so much work
"All we do is talk." We all know some guys have a penchant for avoiding deep conversation. Many guys have friends who claim they never fight with their spouses, or maybe he had parents who shielded him from marital tension. A few too many challenging conversations and your man may wonder if all the stress is a sign of a bad relationship.
The Solution: Quality communication is all about picking the right moment. A long, difficult day at work is not the best precursor to a difficult conversation. Relaxing on the couch, in a low- stress moment, is a much better option. You can also seek out another couple who is willing to be honest about relationship tension that all couples face. Seeing this other couple deal with the same issues might help him realize you're not alone in facing relationship hurdles.

Reason #5: I'm not sure if the things that bother me about you are deal-breakers
Your man loves 38 things about you, but three things about you really annoy him. He can't decide if the 38 lovable qualities outweigh the three annoyances, or if ultimately those three things will drive him batty.
The Solution: You've got to remind your man that sooner or later everyone has the potential to be annoying. Family, roommates, colleagues and spouses all have qualities that can grate on you from time to time. And here's a news flash: he has some annoying qualities too. Marriage is all about accepting a few flaws for the greater good of an otherwise healthy relationship.

I love my Boyfriend

I do, I do, I do. Other than his love I wanted nothing more from him for my birthday but he surprised me with a bracelet from Tiffanys. We went to dinner with my parents last night and I opened gifts before dinner. The card from my grandparents, the gift from my parents and then his. Even before I saw the bracelet his card that he wrote made me tear up. He doesnt like jewlery and doesnt like giving it either, so for him to get me a bracelet and one from tiffanys means more to me and him then I can put into words. I slept with it on and only took it off this morning to shower.

Great Moment

Not only is it my birthday but I get to share it with the first black President of the US!!!

Today is one of the greatest moments in history, if you were for or against Obama it doesn't matter, just realize you got to see this very awesome day. You are apart of seeing something people said may never happen. Not only is it celebrated in America, but the World. Something so great that the WORLD came together for one night and waited, cheered and celebrated. If the World comes together for one man imagine how great this man can be! When the world stops for a nation that some see as overbearing and controlling, to witness history in the making and they are celebrating Obamas win its a sign that things can be fixed, that there is a willingness for change, and change there will be! This win was not just for us but for them, a world that is torn apart with war and indifference has a chance to change and come together.

No on 8 extended

I have to expand on what was written below. I never meant to offend anyone and I want to make sure that there is some clarity.

Do I understand where some people who are voting YES on 8 are coming from? Yes I do, and its part of the reason I am voting no.

We have so many different cultures, religions and beliefs in our country that I think to an extent we need to step outside of a comfort zone and just listen to how this prop 8 is making gay people feel. No ones religion or beliefs are better than anyone else's, and as much as I believe what I am taught in Church, I also know that I have to be mindful of others because they were not raised in the same church or with the same values.

Never have I said kids only in gay homes are raised better. I think my parents did a fantastic job, along with my friends parents and friends who are parents. I just think that SOME people that are raised in homes where their parents had to deal with discrimination, sexual or racial, have a better understanding of all peoples and teach equality more often.

There have been gays in the world hundreds of years before us. It was common for men of higher classes in the Greek and Roman times to "interact" with one another. So for ages past and ages to come there will always be gay and straight, and society does not have to agree with it, just like with interracial relationships or other religions not their own, but being accepting of it. Marriage is not taught in schools now, nor does is have to if 8 is shot down. Children are going to learn about it anyways, through TV shows and the news, from their friends who have gay parents, when they go to high school and they or their friends come out, they are going to learn about it, and they should. Just like children learning about other races or religions.

Your fears should not restrict the dreams of others, telling gays that they can marry is not going to open the gates of hell and demoralize our country, politics and human nature have done that already. I think that people are smart enough to know the differences between right and wrong. Just because you don't think its right (anyone who reads this) doesn't mean its wrong.

No on 8

Main Entry: mar·riage Pronunciation: \ˈmer-ij, ˈma-rij\ Function: noun Etymology: Middle English mariage, from Anglo-French, from marier to marry Date: 14th century 1 a (1): the state of being united to a person of the opposite sex as husband or wife in a consensual and contractual relationship recognized by law (2): the state of being united to a person of the same sex in a relationship like that of a traditional marriage b: the mutual relation of married persons : wedlock c: the institution whereby individuals are joined in a marriage2: an act of marrying or the rite by which the married status is effected ; especially : the wedding ceremony and attendant festivities or formalities3: an intimate or close union

I am writing this for the sole purpose of people understanding what saying YES on 8 will do. The greatest thing about America is that people are allowed to be who they are without fear of being prosecuted or punished. Everyone is allowed to follow their beliefs within the extent of the law. Wither you believe being gay is a lifestyle or genetics, by voting YES on 8 you are punishing gays for what they believe is right and fair. You are telling them that they do not deserve to have the same rights as you. Please put your beliefs aside for a moment and think about how you would feel if you were gay and told you could never in your life marry the person you love, or if you have a gay child you will never get to see their happiness.

Here is an imperfection that I want to pick on with straight people- you abandon your babies…straight people have sex and abandon their babies, they are left to be adopted or left in foster care. Do you know who adopts them? Gay men and women, and they give them a better home then some straight people. They teach their children about being excepting of all people and that being different is okay. Those children go to school and become friends with your child. Say your child is “different” then all the other kids (down syndrome, glasses, physical deformity) a child that is raised in a home where they are taught all are equal are the children that will befriend your child.

Just a thought.

To Have a Husband who...

• plays with my hair for 15-20 minutes most nights before I fall asleep
• holds me when I cry - especially when it's irrational...
• tells me he loves me about 10 times a day...
• does the dishes after dinner pretty much every night...
• tells me how beautiful he thinks I am...
• kisses my hand when we're driving in the car...
• will do almost anything I want to do, just to make me happy...
• tells me he misses me when I've been gone for more than 2 days in a row...
  

Most of these were from a friends blog that I read on a daily basis, but I thought it was too good to not post it myself!

Random Love Questions

1. When did you first see your husband / wife/ significant other?


2. Have you ever had a boyfriend that you regret dating?


3. Who is the boss in your house?


4. Where were you on Valentine's day?


5. Have you ever been given roses?


6. What is your all-time favorite romance movie?


7. At what age did you start noticing the opposite gender?


8. Are you happy with your love situation?


9. Do you love yourself?


10. When shopping do you see things you would like to buy for your partner?


11. Do you worry about how your partner would cope if you weren't there for them anymore?


12. Would you rather go out for the night with your partner than your friends?

Liz's Answers

1. I first saw him at my friend Nan's house in Sacramento

2. No

3. Sometimes me, sometimes Paul.

4. Ate dinner at Tommy Bahama's Restaurant.

5. Yes

6. Princess Bride or When Harry Met Sally

7. 6 yrs old, first grade had my first crush 

8. Very happy

9. Mostly

10. Always, it just happens

11. Yes

12. I would like to go to the places that I go to with friends, with Paul as well; like to the bars, etc.

You know you love someone when

You can ask anyone “how do you know when you’re in love?” and you will never get the same answer. I asked my parents once and they said “You know you love each other when you fart and it doesn’t faze either one of you.” My boyfriend says “Love is when you can have a crazy stressed out day and when you get home and you’re around that other person all that stress goes away and the crazy day no longer matters.”

I think that love is a combination of a lot things rolled into one. The two above, mixed with your partner being your best friend, being able to know what the other is thinking or getting ready to say before they say it, a balance between each others weaknesses and strengths and an understanding of each other. Being able to talk after a fight and not just hearing what someone is saying but listening too. Laughing all the time with each other. When a song comes on that you love you grab your partner and dance in your socks in the kitchen.

Surviving a move. If you still like each other after you have to move houses, you love each other. Yep. We are moving one house tonight and the other tomorrow. I am excited for this move but at the same time I hate moving, it stresses me out. The packing and unpacking, cleaning and not forgetting anything. Also the time, I dislike it when moving takes forever. The sliver lining for me is that this move is a good move. I’m not moving because I have to, like all the other times, I am moving so that we can live together. So all of this work in the end SO worth it for me. I do have to say thank you to my love because he makes it easier. He is my calm this week and I am probably driving him nuts. I think that if we didnt have the things that I listed above in our relationship he would have disowned me by now and told me to forget it.

Like a Snowflake

Relationships are like snowflakes, none are the same. My relationship isnt the same as Lizs and ours arent the same as yours. There are things in common in relationships but please remember if you are talking to a friend, what works for them may not work for you. When you have a problem or you arent sure about something yes it is natural to look to a friend for advice. When you get that advice, do not act on it right away. Take the time to think about how it could affect your relationship.


Side note:
Never compare your partner to someone of the same sex as them. Especially in a fight. Words last longer than you think.

24/7 Married version

I too, totally agree with not being glued 100% of the time to your significant other. Just recently I made a WW night with my friend "T". Our WW night was "Wine and Wii" we had so much fun. Dinner, wine, and Wii.

Along with that event on Tues, on Wed I had a hair appt, and Thurs I went to Ronnie House. 3 evenings I was gone that week.

I know my hubby was excited to watch his ESPN shows and watch silly TV shows I'd never watch, without me complaining, but when I call to tell him I'm on my way home, he sounds sad sometimes, he says it's because he misses me not being there. He's sooo cute about it. Makes me love him more.

24/7 I dont think so

Leave your man alone to be with his friends at least one night a week. You have a girls night or dinner with your family and let him have guys night or dinner with his family WITHOUT YOU. He will appreciate you more. (I have two brothers, I know these things) Guys need to do guy things without you, the same way you need to do girl things without them.

When you are able to give each other space like that, you like each other more. You should also be able to trust each other to have guy/girl nights. You are two individuals and you each had your own lives before you got together. You still need in ways to live those lives. When you're in a relationship, yes your lives are combined, even more so when you live with the other person and you should enjoy sharing experiences together but you also don't need to be up each others butts 24/7. (I do have to admit that there was a guys night last week that turned out had girls there and my feelings did get hurt because I was told that I couldn't come.)

Next time he's going to the club, make your own plans with the girls.

Not in the Plan

God (or whom ever you follow) likes to remind you that you are not in charge and that he has a plan for you. It’s most likely that it’s not the one that you had for yourself. I remember being 18 and having my life all planned out, and when things that I wanted didn’t happen I would be upset. I don’t look at it like that anymore. I am happy with who I am and what I have in my life. Do I wish that I had more; of course, everyone does, but I know that I will get there one day. I am just not going to push it anymore. I have the love of my friends and family and an AMAZING boyfriend, a good job and my health. Be happy with you. All of you, and if you aren’t make small day to day changes. Small changes will lead to bigger ones, just give it time. I was not part of my boyfriends plan for his life, he never wanted a girlfriend, but here I am. Hes learning that his plan is not always Gods plan and hes not fighting it anymore and hes happy.

Yes I said boyfriend (The Ex), he and I are back together and we are getting ready to move-in with one another!! Exciting I know. 2 days after I wrote a blog about the men in my life the New Guy (it was only 2 dates) was no longer. I just couldn’t do it. My heart has been and will be with The Ex-now Boyfriend. I couldn’t ask for a better man in my life.

Here are a few things that he and I do together to stay connected:

Cook. At least once a week we cook a meal together. We find something fun and easy that we both have never made before so that we are both learning. We turn on the music and get to cooking.

Clean. Yes we clean together. Last night we cleaned our bedroom, tonight it’s the bathroom. Not only does it get done faster it also means we are both contributing, making us equals. Its always good to try and balance house “duties”; someone cleans the bathroom the other person vacuums and dusts…one person cooks the other does the dishes.

Hug. Yep, super easy but it gives you a chance to bond. Our lives are separate yet combined and we all have our own stresses. Once we are both at home before we do anything or say anything we give each other a hug. It feels good and sometimes when you or the other person has a bad day it helps to feel each others energy.

Listen. Even if it’s during a commercial, lower the volume and listen. You may be surprised at what you’re going to hear. You learn a lot about your partner not only by what they say but how they say things. Also when you give someone your full attention it lets them know you care. Your TV program is not as important (and will most likely rerun) as your partner.

I love you. Even when you’re mad and fighting. You never know when you’re going to wake up and they aren’t going to be there so let them know that you love them a couple of times a day. Don’t ever be too busy to let them know how much they mean to you.

Saying No, just to say No!

I know I can be a bit difficult at times, mostly around my really close friends and family, probably because I figure I can get away with being snotty or annoying, and they'll wake up the next day still loving me! Any how I'm starting realize my actions and thoughts, and sometimes I do care about changing and controling my ways, and other times I could give a shit.

This morning was one of those times I couldn't care less about something Paul was interested in, ( I think it was something about what was on the radio) and I was being a butt head and making weird mocking noises about whatever it was we were talking about.

But later as I was at the sink in the bathroom my hubby pinches my arm real tiny like a needle, or at least that's what it felt like. I was not in the mood for it and I hit him on his gut with the side of my fist. I didn't knock the wind out of him, but it was hard enough to let him know I was mad.

I told him to please not pinch me so hard and then he stormed off to work with out our usual goodbye kisses.

I left the apt a few minutes after, but when he pulled out of the driveway he stopped on the opposite side of the street, got out, and came over to tell me he loves me and gave me my kiss. I then leaned on his shoulder and said I was sorry for hitting.

We're all better now, but it also got me thinking. Since we're adults, we know that we should control our actions at this point in life. We know things that make us mad and possibly act out. So if my husband and I have children, will they have these actions programed into their DNA? and if they do they're obviously not going to know to Not hit, and Not yell, and perhaps even become just smart enough and clever enough to say 'NO' to things just for the sake of saying NO!

I guess this is one more step in life that shows me I'm growing up.

Getting 'Holla'd' At

Even though it's Friday, lets rewind a tiny bit to last weekend. It has been a very busy month, mostly on the weekends, with events, and travel and it's been great!

This past weekend the husband and I took a road trip to Sacramento for a friends wedding. We stayed at the Sheraton Grand Hotel in Downtown, right off J St.

Well on Sat Night we walked over 2 blocks to PF Changs for dinner, "Soy sauce on the Jeans" story aside......as we walked back from the restaurant some guys, who I assume go to Sac State, yelled out their car window, "Hey Girl!" I found this quite odd, seeing as how I'm mostly used to that sort of thing when I'm with my girlfriends heading to the clubs, but no, this instance I was on the arm of my husband, walking side by side. I turned to him and gave a puzzled look as if, "Did they just holla at me?" I think we pretty much accepted that I'm still hot, even if it is 9pm and they were driving by at 35-40 mph!

So to those boys in Sac, Thanks. You made my night!

Just for Today

JUST FOR TODAY: I will live through this day only. I will not brood about yesterday or obsess about tomorrow. I will not set far-reaching goals or try to overcome all of my problems at once.
I know that I can do something for 24 hours that would overwhelm me if I had to keep it up for a lifetime.

JUST FOR TODAY: I will be happy. I will not dwell on thoughts that depress me. If my mind fills with clouds, I will chase them away and fill it with sunshine.

JUST FOR TODAY: I will accept what is. I will face reality. I will correct those things I can correct and accept those I cannot.

JUST FOR TODAY: I will improve my mind. I will read something that requires effort, thought and concentration. I will not be a mental loafer.

JUST FOR TODAY: I will make a conscious effort to be agreeable. I will be kind and courteous to those who cross my path, and I'll not speak ill of others. I will improve my appearance, speak softly, and not interrupt when someone else is talking.

Just for today, I will refrain from improving anybody but myself.

JUST FOR TODAY: I will do something positive to improve my health. If I'm a smoker, I'll quit. If I am overweight, I will eat healthfully -- if only just for today. And not only that, I will get off the couch and take a brisk walk, even if it's only around the block.

JUST FOR TODAY: I will gather the courage to do what is right and take responsibility for my own actions.

Dating 101: Are Bad Dating Habits Keeping You Single?

Saw this on Yahoo and thought they'd be good to share. I know I've had to do some of these myself!  Mostly the letting go of the past part.

Five tips to free yourself from common dating traps

By Lisa Steadman, The Relationship JournalistSpecial to Yahoo! PersonalsUpdated: Aug 28, 2008

In the search for love, it's all too easy to get sidetracked by bad dates, broken hearts, and bad love habits. And while bad dates and broken hearts are part of the dating journey toward happily-ever-after, bad love habits can and should be avoided at all costs.

So what's a bad love habit? Any dysfunctional, destructive, difficult belief or habit you have towards love and relationships that's keeping you from finding, attracting, and/or maintaining a healthy relationship. The following are some common bad dating beliefs:

• You choose potential partners who are incapable of meeting your emotional needs.
• You think love has to be difficult, painful, and/or hard.
• You think your potential partner is going to fix whatever you don't like about yourself or your life.
   You think your potential partner is going to fix whatever you don't like about yourself or your life.
• You believe time is running out on your search for love and/or your chance to have children.

If any of the above sound familiar, don't worry. You're not a lost cause. In fact, with a little time and effort, you can turn things around! What follows are five simple and effective tips and techniques geared toward helping you break free of limiting relationship beliefs and bad dating habits. Practiced over time, you can and will kick any bad dating habit -- for good!

1. Identify the dating traps you're stuck in

Think you've got to miraculously solve all your problems before you'll be deserving of love? Convinced there are no good "ones" left? Or do you believe that your perfect partner will one day swoop in and magically save you from your life? If any or all of the above sound familiar, chances are good that you suffer from some common dating traps. In order to become a successful single, you first need to free yourself from these traps. Acknowledging the traps you're stuck in is the first step. Next, you've got to break free of these traps, as well as any other limiting or destructive beliefs that are keeping you stuck. To find out how, keep reading.

2. Assess your excess baggage

Next, it's important to get honest with yourself about what you might be lugging around with you on dates (or in life in general). What are you holding onto that no longer serves you? Rejection, disappointment, betrayal? This is from your past, not your present or future. If you've got negative or destructive beliefs or fears weighing you down, you owe it to yourself to dump that excess baggage!

3. Dump your excess baggage

In order to have a happily ever after future, you have to first believe you deserve finding a mate. Gather those painful memories, that chip on your shoulder, any residual anger from past relationship experiences, and tell them they've got to go. Thank them for the lessons you've learned and tell them that it's now time for you to stand on your own two feet. In your mind's eye, give them the heave-ho! Next, start visualizing the kind of life you want to have, complete with your dream job, perfect partner, ideal home, etc. By getting clear about what you want, you give yourself permission to attract it.

4. Stop putting off your life and/or personal happiness

So many of us put off personal happiness waiting for some external result like "I'll be happy when I lose weight, when I pay off my debts, when I get a better job." The truth is, you deserve to enjoy your fabulously imperfect life right this very minute! 

When you stop putting off happiness, you start attracting happy people, healthy relationships, exciting and new opportunities.

When you stop putting off happiness, you start attracting happy people, healthy relationships, exciting and new opportunities. Instead of postponing joy until something external happens, today's the day to start celebrating the joy in your everyday life.

5. Embrace a new dating vocabulary

Now that you're baggage light and dating-trap free, it's time to introduce a new vocabulary to your dating belief system. Every morning and night for 30 days, practice the following exercise: Say to yourself "Love/dating/my ideal relationship is..." and then fill in the blank with the appropriate words (words like healthy, whole, loving, fun, etc.). By creating a new vocabulary for yourself, you may be surprised at how your outlook on dating and relationships changes, and as a result, you'll start attracting happier and healthier potential partners. Love that!

So there you have it -- five simple dating tips and techniques to help you break free of limiting relationship beliefs and bad love habits. May you learn them, love them, live them. In doing so, you just may fall in love with your life all over again, not to mention exponentially increase your chances of future relationship success.

Good luck and happy dating!

When Looking For A Guy...

Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will stay awake just to watch you sleep.

Wait for the boy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in your sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends, who thinks you're just as pretty without makeup on.

Wait for the one who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares about you and how lucky he is to have you.

Wait for the one who turns to his friends and says, "...that's her."

A year ago

He he,

A year ago today I was on my way to Liz's house for one of the greatest days ever!!! Her wedding. We did make up and hair at her house while her mom provided yummys and finished one of the cakes. Then it was off to the church that we grew up in. The excitment was amazing. pre-wedding pictures were taken as we started to dress and it went by so fast from there. I am a big sap and I was doing really good until Paul started crying. Simple yet beautiful and suprisingly not stressful.

Liz can I tell you how in aw I am of you. You married your best friend and had a blast doing it. You didnt settle when there were times you could have and you found your perfect fit.

So, Liz...Happy Anniversary, with many more to come.

Things Up and Coming

For those who thought, by the title, that this might be sexually related....I'm sorry, but not as of yet. Perhaps in the future, when we get a bit more of a liberal and/ or open audience, but for now we'll keep it PG.

So things going on in the world of Paul and Liz, next week we're celebrating our very first wedding anniversary! We're going out to place I've wanted to try for ages, and heard good things about, Ruth's Chris Steakhouse! Apparently they have a summer special that for $89 = dinner for two (3 course meal). Not bad huh!? We'll clean our selves up after work, perhaps Paul will wear pants! (not that he doesn't, he just wears shorts everyday to work, ....lucky!)

We're not getting each other any gifts, not exactly. We agreed to go to an Angel's/ A's game as our present to each other. Plus, since the first anniversary gift is Paper, we just gave each other a ticket, a silly exchange, but it IS paper, so it counted, right? (ps. my A's won!)

We also have a trip to San Diego Zoo planned and another trip to Sacramento for a wedding planned this month, so we'll be busy bees, driving all over California, perhaps pictures will be posted!

I can't wait to share traveling time with Paul, he's great!

Rambling My Thoughts

Best Friend finally called back last night-it felt good to talk to him. He just sits and listens to me ramble. He asked about The Ex, and how I was doing, my explanation of me still hanging out with The Ex about 2 times a week was almost enough to make him hang up on me, but I did tell him about the New Guy and he almost died with happiness.

Best Friend usually drills me about any guy I meet and go on dates with, but last night all he said was "Did he make you laugh?" "Yes" I replied and he left it alone. I don't know if he was just happy that I'm moving on or he has given up on me. Geez.

I sometimes wish we were born with toe tags that told you who your partner would be.

-Here's to wishing!!

Andrea and Her Men

Because this blog is made for women to read so they know that they aren’t alone and all relationships aren’t the same when I post a life story I won’t be using names other then my own. Its about us (not men) and how we see it through our eyes. For clarification though this posting is to give you a bit of a back ground of what role My Men play in my life. Also please feel free to comment on anything that gets posted. Share your story!!

My men-

Best Friend- We have been friends for 10 years. He has been there through all of my stupid relationships, good ones too. He pops in and out of my life, some times we go with out talking for a couple of months, but he’s always there when I need him. He tells me the blunt honest truth, even when I don’t want to hear it, but I know he does it because he loves me.

The Bodyguard- Protector of Drea when I go to the club and start acting a fool. Gotta love him. He’s straight muscle and intimidating but below all that a totally sweet guy…and before you ask, we are nothing more than friends…there isn’t any other vibe there. (The Ex thinks differently but oh well to bad) He can make me laugh for days!

The Ex- We have been dating for 10 months and for the most part my writings will be about him. I do love him with all my heart but I am not what he wants (thats what he says when he gets mad at me). He wants to date me but also wants to be able to see other people…that’s a no for me. We talk every couple of days and to be fully honest on weekends where there has been some drinking he will pop up at my house or me at his. Its hard to let him go. He’s everything that I want in my partner. He’s smart, educated, has a good job and a wonderful family. I don’t have to say anything to him and he usually knows what I’m thinking.

The New Guy- Sweet heart. He can hold a conversation and I can see us dating. He’s super new though. I just met him and we’ve only been on one date. I met him at a club in the City and he actually chased me down the street to get my number, even after I made a rude comment (I’m not really one to give my number out at the club).

So for now these are the men in my life. It’s a complicated tangled mess at the moment. The Ex doesn’t know about the New Guy, I’m afraid of what will be said when he finds out. I shouldn’t care but there is that part of me that’s not ready to let him go for good.

Things about Liz and her Man

1. Where did you meet? Nan's house in Sacramento
2. What was the first thought that went through your head when you met? He's so funny and cute
3. Do you remember what she/he was wearing? That yellow shirt with the monkey band on it!
4. Where was the first time you kissed this person? aah in an apt, Nan's, but different apt than where and when we met!
5. How did he/she ask you out? we just talked on the phone soo much it was assumed.
6. Where did you go for your first date? hmmm...first real date?..Cheesecake Factory
7.How long did you know this person before you became a couple? 3-4 months..
8. Has this person ever proposed to you? .we kinda just knew we wanted to be with each other for the rest of our lives., but yes he did!!..
9. Do you and this person have kids together? No...we're waiting
10. Have you ever broken the law with this person? I don't think so
11. When was the first time you realized that you liked this person? the first time I saw him..
12. Do you get along with any of the ex's of your partner? umm..i don't know any of them to either like them or hate them.
13. Do you trust this person?yes
14. Do you see your partner in your future? I better..
15. Whats the most expensive thing this person has given you? Probably my ring
16. What is one thing he/she does that gets on ur nerves? He snores
17. What is the thing you do that gets on his/her nerves? my crying
18. Where do you see each other in 15 years from now? Still married, with 2 kids and a house

Poem from a broken heart

Broken hearted all alone
My life I lead, I’m on my own.

Gentle kisses fade away
A place in my heart is where you are laid.

Memories will fade as time goes on
Yet remembering what we had will still stay strong.

Giving up this early must have been hard to do.
Simple things I’ll miss, saying I love you.

Time will only tell what will happen with our lives

Will we come back to a familiar place?
Or will there be forever this sad empty space?